Husband

Connections, Egyptian, Relationships

Two years ago I wrote about ‘The date’ -(read to find out more about how we met). April 12th our anniversary. Today we have been married 13 years. However, I don’t know whether this date is as significant as the day we met which was in May, sixteen years ago. Sixteen years feels more significant than thirteen. It is crazy to think it is sixteen years since we met, part of me feels only a bit older than that! I don’t know if it is because I married an artist or an Egyptian but that makes no two days the same. I always thought you needed to find someone who was like you, your tribe. That there was some notion of finding another person and finding yourself. Instead I found someone who was the complete opposite of me in most things but he makes me laugh, at life, at myself and together. The verb of husband means to conserve resources and use them frugally which is exactly the opposite of what the sculptor does! The word ‘husband’ comes old norse for house dweller. In fact we bought our house just slightly before we got married so we did become house dwellers around the same time we became husband and wife so I suppose he became my husband thirteen years ago.

“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” 

― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

 

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‘The Kiss’ 2013 by Sam Shendi. 

 

Love is not the easiest journey and ours has its struggles and tests along the way. I have realised marriage is mostly a discovery of yourself rather than of the other person. So staring into each others eyes isn’t going to get you anywhere but having a direction forward is probably a better outlook.

Often as adults we are wounded. Wounded either by others or by ourselves. We can quite easily slip into a  daydream of remaining that way and thereby allowing past behaviours to continue. I have found that being with someone who is candid and open about his thoughts and feelings has helped me to unravel my own, slowly.

I think growing up I always believed in the idea that there would be ‘one’ but society, life, the current world we live in makes you question that idea. I was always looking for love. It definitely felt like we were destined to be. He is my guiding light.

 

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‘The Wedding Dress’

Colour, Relationships
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‘The Wedding Dress’

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‘The Wedding Dress’ 2013

Today is our wedding anniversary, I am now a number of years in to life as ’The Sculptor’s wife’. Last year I wrote about our day. It’s most often in the holidays and like last year I have been busy with the boys and have had less time for blogging. I have had several things I wanted to write about but for today. ‘The Wedding dress’ seemed rather appropriate. The amount people spend on them to me always seem so astronomical. I am not sure I see the point in spending thousands on a dress you only wear once.

“The average UK wedding in 2012 cost in excess of £20,000, 2013 brides are becoming more astute with their wedding spending with the average wedding expected to cost around £16,000, this is likely to be due to the economic climate.”  Top designer dress for £4,000 or more! This still sounds so huge when you could buy a good quality second-hand dress for just £100 or less.

The white wedding dress has not always been the traditional choice of colour. In the 16th and 17th centuries brides wore different shades of yellow, green, brown, blue, even black, according to their age, those colours would symbolise fertility or maturity. Brides from a wealthier background would wear something more splendid, a bride in a white dress would be showing her poorer background and lack of money!

Looking back over the years at the history of the wedding dress, we now seem to have returned to the original starting point of the pre-Victorian era when brides could let their imagination run free to choose the colour of their dress, incorporating other colours either as part of the dress or completely for a more dramatic effect. In eastern cultures, brides often choose red to symbolize auspiciousness.

This piece shown above is currently in a photo shoot so this is just a quick snap my husband took in the new studio (will blog about that soon). It not only reduces the human figure into geometric shapes it highlights an issue about the price tag we put on getting married.  The simple act of joining together two opposites. The geometric, decisive sharp, angular, strong and bold, out on top with the  much-needed support from the  smooth, curvy, flexible, calm, moody, full but dependable base. Very symbolic of our union. Here’s to more years as ‘The sculptor’s wife’. Better log off….we are celebrating !